calico2
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| | Nov 06, 2009 | Reply with quote | #76 |
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I finally caught up an this tread and I have to say this:
When you make a commitment to a team or a dance or a job or whatever...you should follow through.
There are times when emergencies arise or it is better to miss because the dancer will be a detriment to themselves and the others due to physical or emotional state.
As a person who directs and produces theatrical productions,I can tell you 100% that when even one person is missing or quits, it really puts a lot of work on everyone left behind, so there has to be some requirements for attendance.
BUT....when the child is still living at home and has to rely upon the parents to drive them back and forth, to put out the money and the parents still make decisions about where the children are and when, then it becomes difficult and unfair to blame and punish the child, so exceptions are made in those circumstances as well.
If parents want to teach responsibility and accountability, then they should make sure they and their children follow through all commitments for the year.
Now, cue crickets.... |
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MooseysBiggestFan
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WZ4816
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| | Nov 07, 2009 | Reply with quote | #78 |
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HI. I have been here reading all week and appreciate reading all the many sides of this issue. Not only did I find many great answers to my question, but an interesting discussion on the matter. I have been thinking about what I wanted to add to the discusion.
In my community we have so many activities for girls with competitive or we call it "travel" or premier leagues (dance, gymanstics, soccer, vollyball, softball etc.) available, particularly starting around the age of 9 or 10. I can see that girls who are involved in more than one of these competitive options have most of the conflicts as these activities tend to come with expectations of attendance and your undivided attention. I can see the point that it is hard for kids to have to decide at such a young age which activity they going to make their "primary". We had an easier time as my DD never excelled at traditional sports (she always looked like a dancer on the soccer field). We were able to make dance her primary, though well balnecing her with some other activites (though they all seem to be art related) that could come second.
Traditionally our comp. team consists of children like my daughter. There are plenty of amazing dancers in our non-comp groups which my daughter takes as well, they happen to be children that had to make dance their secondary as they played travel sports or another such activity. Also, there are dancers in our comp. program trying to balance more than one comp. activity as they have a love for more than one activity. Our SO has tried to accomidate if all of this is explained and schedules are known before the beginning of the season. This situation which I spoke initially, was a change mid season change and I think too hard for the SO to accomidate.
Your feedback is helpful as I understand all sides of the issue and of course leave it to my SO to work out and use the experience as a growing opportunity for my DD
I apprecaite all the feedback and love the wise words of the dance moms from this board!!! |
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fdmom
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| | Nov 09, 2009 | Reply with quote | #79 |
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I am more of a lurker & don't post often. I scanned through the FIVE pages of posts on this thread. Not going to rehash what's been thoroughly discussed already --- but wanted to mention that the OP asked the question on the "Competition" thread. Therefore, my original reaction to her question related with that in mind -- separating out regular classes from company/team/whatever it's called where you live rehearsals.
And for the families that posted about dancing in Jewish neighborhoods - I'm dreading the 7th grade school year (2011/2012). Our DD will have to decide during the summer before whether she'll take that year off (competing team)or not. If she continues that year it will be lots of missed events. I personally would rather her take more classes & skip team that year; but it will be her decision. We'll get her bat mitzvah date in Feb, along w/all her friends (SO daughter included). Our SO will have plenty of notice but DD's could easily fall on recital weekend. That would be fun! NOT! |
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TwinsMom
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| | Nov 17, 2009 | Reply with quote | #80 |
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| Well actually, we go to our first competition this weekend and last wednesday night the studio owner was sent an email from one of my daughters team mates mothers stating they were not returning due to financial difficulties. She pulled her daughter days before a competition and left the team with less than 2 practices to make changes to the dance. I am beyond upset. My daughters are twins and they are the most affected by this in 2 of their dances. The most difficult is one of the routinues is to Mr. Personality... this girl was the "nerd" of the dance... without her the concept of the choreography is gone. In their lyrical dance my daughter no longer has a partner for parts. She has a good attitude about it and sees the changes to be "mini" showcases of her talents... but still... it's very frustrating. They have worked for months and to have someone do that at the last minute is hurtful to these girls. They claimed financial issues but yet, they paid for this competition already. So why not let her compete this competition and then drop? At least that would give them till January to prepare for the next competition. |
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DaniJay
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| | Nov 18, 2009 | Reply with quote | #81 |
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We had a lot of problems with this last year. We were re-choregraphing routines before every competition. It got really old fast. Once we even re-choreographed a routine at a competition because the dance and mom left in the middle of a competition.
Because of this, we now have a contract and have to pay $50 for every routine you pull out of, and once we re-choreograph a routine you are out of it. Unless, of course, there is an emergency or health issue.
Our studio tries to work around everyone's schedule, in fact we are the only studio in the area with a large group of high school girl because of this. But, you are not placed in the advanced routines if you are not committed 100%. If we have a family event or other equally important event we schedule around it. If they can't, as long as the dancer hasn't missed the other rehearsals, they are allowed to miss that practice. Plus, we don't schedule rehearsals on holidays. We will however, have practice during holiday breaks at least one day, but its nothing that can't be worked around, we have plenty notice. |
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