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JojosDanceMom

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Nothing is more unnerving for my dd than going on stage to perform a dance with a section that she does not feel confident doing.  With that said, her solo has had lots of tweaks since learning it this summer.  Some tweaks have to been work around the limits of an injury, others have been to change a part that she felt uncomfortable with.  Her best performance (in mom's and teacher's and judge's opinion) this year was at the height of her injury with a notably simplified routine that she performed cleanly and confidently. In fact, as she is getting healthier, some of the simplifications are going to stay, because she feels more confident being able to deliver a polished performance.  


See, now in this scenario, how much better would she have felt at having the simplified routine from the start rather than having to have more difficult things removed because she couldn't do them yet (at least not comfortably)?  That's why it's better to start simple and increase difficulty rather than start complicated and decrease difficulty.  It's much better for them to feel like they're being rewarded for hard work by having the difficulty level increased than to feel like, after all their hard work, they just couldn't get it and had to have the routine simplified.  [smile]
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See, now in this scenario, how much better would she have felt at having the simplified routine from the start rather than having to have more difficult things removed because she couldn't do them yet (at least not comfortably)?  That's why it's better to start simple and increase difficulty rather than start complicated and decrease difficulty.  It's much better for them to feel like they're being rewarded for hard work by having the difficulty level increased than to feel like, after all their hard work, they just couldn't get it and had to have the routine simplified.  [smile]


See the changing the expectation wouldn't feel like a reward for my dancer. It would feel like a constantly moving carrot. She likes knowing in the fall what she's dealing with for the whole season. It would make her crazy to have new stuff added or major changes made throughout the season. She likes measuring growth from first comp to last. She wouldn't be able to do that with stuff being added or changed. The one year she had a notably clean and simple solo with no challenges to work on she scored very very well but felt absolutely no growth over the season. So that doesn't work for her either. I think every kid is wired differently.
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OP please remind your dancer that this is supposed to be fun! Make sure you tell her you are proud of her, before she dances, and after she leaves the stage. Don't worry about what the judges say. Maybe they were hungry or thirsty, or had to use the washroom, or had a hang nail or needed to sneeze. They are just people.

In my opinion, she shouldn't see the judges critiques if it shook her confidence. The DT should summarize them and tell her what they liked, and gently, what needs work. Also, discuss with the DT whether to change the routine or not (without your DD around). If my DD felt the routine was being changed to make it easier, she would have been upset that the DT did not have confidence in her.

Congratulations to your DD on 3rd overall. Also, I want to congratulate you for being open to all of this feedback.

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