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Hey everyone, just catching up on these forums and I just have one question.
What's with all these parents asking about songs for their young child's solo? I've even seen ones about their children's groups? I guess I'm just confused as in our studio if a child or parent gets to pick a song that wouldn't be until they're seniors and still that's just a maybe. I can't imagine asking my child's teacher or SO who I have known forever for a solo with a particular song. This is their job, not ours??? We aren't allowed to do this. Is this unique to our studio or are you just really involved parents??
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My daughter has picked 3 of the 5 songs for her solos.
She picked her first tap solo song 2 years ago. She picked the song for her first Jazz solo last year. She has also picked the song for next year's tap solo.
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My daughter's very first solo and duo, she did not get to pick. Her solo this year, she was given about 7 options until she heard "the one". Also this year she had a say in one duo song, but not the other. It really depends on the choreographer I think and the dancer's age. I think at my daughter's age, 14, the teacher really wants them to feel connected to the song.
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My daughter has always had input into her solo songs. She is 16 and has been doing solos since she was 10. We are at a very small studio with only a handful of soloists each year, so maybe that's why. However, I believe that a soloist should have some input, after all we pay a lot of money for a solo and the dancer should feel connected to the music.
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Originally Posted by
Hey everyone, just catching up on these forums and I just have one question. What's with all these parents asking about songs for their young child's solo? I've even seen ones about their children's groups? I guess I'm just confused as in our studio if a child or parent gets to pick a song that wouldn't be until they're seniors and still that's just a maybe. I can't imagine asking my child's teacher or SO who I have known forever for a solo with a particular song.
This is their job, not ours???
We aren't allowed to do this. Is this unique to our studio or are you just really involved parents??
While generally it's just a matter of studio policy, it also goes back to ones' attitude about the whole process. Do we wish to be a passive participant or an active participant? There's nothing wrong with just going along for the ride if that fits our long term goal, but sometimes dancers want to help guide the process in an effort to maximize their personal growth. And a dancer's ability to choose/dance to music that truly resonates with them can have a notable impact on their solo experience.
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My daughter has been able to pick her own music for her solo and for duets/trios too if all partners agree on the music. Don't this is as uncommon as you may think.
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My dd has also picked every solo and duet song. Teacher has final approval but no DT/SO has ever said no or pick something else.
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This year, we are letting DT select the song. She has a very specific vision. As long as dd likes it, that will be the process this time.
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At our studio it's definitely teacher preference as to who gets what song and how much input. DD 14's solo teacher and she work together to find song each year. Sometimes it's DD's selection, and sometimes it's DT's selection. Other teachers at our studio tell the dancers what song they are dancing to, and the style, and there is no flexibility. One reason why we like DD's fave DT!
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DD has done 5 solos throughout the years with 3 different choreographers. The first one had the dancers pick the music, she had final approval, but the dancers got to choose their music, costume, hair, makeup, shoes, etc. Second choreo asked DD if she had anything in mind, DD made a suggestion and the choreo loved it so that's what they used, but other dancers with the same choreo were assigned songs. Third choreo, the first year with her, DD was given no input at all. We hated the song and DD never really connected with the solo. This year with the same choreo, DD requested a specific song and the choreo agreed, and it is a much better fit for DD, both because the song is very meaningful to her and because the choreo knows her much better now and the choreography suits her better. At our current studio, the norm is for the choreographers to choose, but they do occasionally take suggestions, especially from the older dancers.
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We aren't allowed to chose anything.
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We aren't allowed to choose anything. SO hands out invites for those kids allowed to do a s/d/t and you only know the discipline they have been chosen for. Once you accept the routine you get assigned a DT and then they pick music, costume, etc. Sometimes with the older kids they will ask their opinions but not always.
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Every single solo song dd14 has done she has approved first. She's picked 6 out of 9 solo songs herself. The other 3 were suggested by the choreographer. She never suggests songs for groups. Sometimes the teacher will play 2 or three they're torn between, and ask the classes opinion.
ETA: costumes and hair are 100% on the student. They both just need to be approved by the choreographer.
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We have to give a list of songs for solos and duets and SO has the final say. Same with costumes.
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In our case, my daughter trains at a small studio that specialises in one kind of dancing, yet also offers ballet, tap, and modern. She's the only one in the school competing outside of their main dance type - she asked if she could compete, so her teacher has been choreographing her pieces and she will compete under the school name.
We worked together to find music that would be well suited to daughter's strengths, and I'm still on the lookout for new pieces. Same with costumes - she's pretty much left it to me. I have more time than she does, and it's one less thing for her to have to worry about.
I know this is a bit of an odd scenario, but it's working for us.
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My opinion is - if I'm paying for a solo I get music approval. I'm not the crazy stage mom about it - but to go through a season with a song that doesn't suit your kid's style/personality doesn't get them very far. And if neither of you like the music when you get it - you will like it less by the end of a season. For last year's jazz the choreographer, dancer and I all had one song on the top of our lists marked for her - so that choreographer knows her pretty well! We were very lucky.
A factor to consider though is that a studio can have a repertoire of dances - our studio has been in business for several decades - they might have a special piece ready for your kid and choreo that just has to be adapted. It would be hard to ask for something else when you were chosen for this piece, but sometimes they do offer a couple selections. They will try to get a more current cut of the music. And overheard in the audience.... Mom talking about her teenager - finally stays and see his final choreo session. She was very upset when she heard the music and it had to be changed for the first comp that weekend. It was hiphop.... I can only imagine what they were using... There are many moral reasons not to permit a song. And twerking. I don't care if Stacey Tookey is our choreographer, there are things I just don't want to see my kid do. A few years ago I would just roll with it - but no way. I'm the one writing the cheque, buying the costume, paying the entry fees. I deserve .007% input.
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Our studio is tiny, and when I say tiny, I mean there are about 12 of us. Its mostly just a company(think like Project 21). It kinda depends on the kid on if they get to choose. If they're a mini, don't know what they're looking for, can't make a decision kind of kid, then DT chooses the song. However, dancer and parent approval is always needed. Same with costume. DT lets most of the older girls choose, but of course, her approval is needed as well as the parent's. Usually DD brings a few song ideas and DT brings a few song ideas, they collaborate, talk about choreography and costuming ideas for each one and how it fits her, basically where they would be going with the piece, then they make a decision. With our current DT, we've ended up using both of DD's suggestions this season once we decided what type of music we were looking for. DD's tap solo was "New York, New York(Djason Remix)" by Frank Sinatra. Her musical theater was "One Hundred Easy Ways" from Wonderful Town. We're all so so happy with what we chose.
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Our studio is very tiny too. So tiny that we aren't sure if dd15 will have a team to dance group numbers with next year. She picked the music for her solo last year and has already picked the songs and genre for her 2 solos next year. I'm sure if SO & DT didn't approve they would say something but they both loved DD's song choices.
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Different teachers, different ways of choosing the solo music.
Year 1- SO said find a song and I'll find a choreographer for it. I also found the costume. She was 7. Year 2- New DT at studio and I sent music back and forth until we both fell in love with a song for a lyrical solo. Year 3- Same DT repeated lyrical solo with her while adjusting the difficulty for the move from mini to junior. She added a 2nd solo in MT style with a different teacher. At this point, my daughter and I selected the song since all 3 of us felt if you are doing MT you have to connect to the song. Year 4 Lyrical solo music ideas sent back and forth, and song agreed on. The dance was partially choreographed then the DT was fired. The DT that had done her MT solo the year before took over. He asked to change the song and we started from scratch. Ended up loving that music and dance much better than fired teacher's dance/song. MT solo again was selected by all 3 of us. Year 5 MT solo music chosen by my daughter after HOURS of listening to songs. DT loved it, so it was a go! Contemporary solo was done by an outside choreographer from LA. She chose the music. Totally out of the box solo with a song I've never heard before. I generally get a BIG say in her costumes, since most are custom made. If I'm paying $$$$, you better believe I get a say for solo costumes. A child/teen is not going to perform their best in a costume that they are not comfortable wearing. While it can be covered in a group dance, in a solo, it shows when the dancer is not comfortable. Group dances? You, DT/SO/Guest, tell me the music and costume, and I pay the cash.
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I think this really depends on the choreographer. For the DT we use, she gave us a list of 4 song and we chose the one we like best. Other girls in our studio were not given a choice, others had full selection. It really depends on the relationship between the choreographer and the student.
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Our studio is rather small, and solos usually happen once the dancers hit 13-14. They choose the song with DT approval, but I don't remember an instance where the choice was vetoed. For duets and trios, sometimes the DT will offer suggestions if a song choice doesn't fit or there's no agreement among the group. I'm of the same opinion as others have mentioned--if I'm paying all the entry fees plus a choreo fee and practice time, I want my dancer to have a say in the song choice so she feels a connection to the music.
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The choreographer selects the music except in specific cases. Those cases, as far as I know, are only a few select seniors who have been allowed to submit a list of songs they'd like the choreographer to consider. For certain I only know of two dancers (both seniors) offered that option but to be honest, I really don't know for sure if there are also others. The parents don't talk about it. It's really no one's business.
If you do get the option, trust me ... it's actually MUCH harder than you'd think.
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I think for our studio it might depend on the choreographer. I think many allow a list to be submitted but there is no guaranty that they will use any of them....especially if they are all 'overused.' If you are self choreographing (which tons do at our studio) you get to do what you want.
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At our studio, you get to submit 3-5 songs and the DT makes the decision from there. Although if they don't like any of your song choices, they will pick one for you.
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Our current place used to pick all solo and group songs. This year they let the older girls have a say. They had to bring in not only a piece of music, but also start choreo on their own dance. While to an extent I do like at some point teaching the older girls to not just improv, but to learn to choreograph and how to transition, I don't think our DT is qualified enough herself to teach others to choreograph. She has no formal teaching aside from the dance classes she took growing up.